September 19th

September 19th

I am Tahasi Massk

There have been times where we have had to make a special effort to cultivate the bond between just us. It is easy to lose sight of the ‘us’ in our family because of our kids’ demands. In viewing activities over the past few decades, there have been some amazing wonderful memories with all of our family together. But some of my absolute favorites are the times when it is just the two of us.

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September 18th

September 18th

I am Tahasi Massk

I love the little traditions that we have created in our marriage. Celebrating on the 18th of each month is one of them. Sometimes we do bigger things, like going to dinner, or even taking an overnight getaway. Other times it is just in small simple expressions of appreciation and happiness. Still, with each expression the happiness expands. And remembering the day again yields even more appreciation for the wonderful months and years that have occurred.

September 17th

Septemeber 17th

I am Tahasi Massk

Our thoughts about each other can serve as a huge strength to one another or a huge hindrance. It all depends on whether we make our natural thoughts hopeful or fearful. Suppressing our negativity gets simpler each time we do it. I have times where I know I do things that frustrate her, and I deeply appreciate her choosing to let the hopeful thoughts about us overcome the fearful ones.

September 16th

September 16th

I am Tahasi Massk

To really understand love you must actually develop love yourself. Developing empathy eventually produces love. You increase ability to love through understanding others. Feeling along with them changes something in you. And loving is a choice. It is one we both make each day. One we make at each crossroads moment. One that has held us together through years and through tears. We are coming to understand love because we are choosing to develop it.

September 15th

September 15th

I am Tahasi Massk

The journey through life is best enjoyed with a friend. Two people bound by friendship experience far more joy than one person experiences. Nearly all romantic movies start with friends who eventually discover that they need each other. A successful relationship is one in which that discovery happens again, and again, and again.

September 14th

September 14th

I am Tahasi Massk

There is a simple strategy for understanding, compassion, and harmony. The funny this is that even though it accomplishes huge things, it’s not that hard. I simply listen. It feels easy when I am feeling whole, but nearly impossible when I am not. Thankfully, she is patient with me during those times. Times where I fail to listen with an introspective mind, and instead hear with a defensive heart. We both win when we simply listen.

September 13th

September 13th

I am Tahasi Massk.

I can’t quite explain how captivating she is in conversation. It is more even than the words she says. There is something mesmerizing about the combination of her eyes and voice. Even nights when I know we should get to sleep, I want to stay up talking with her.

September 12

September 12th

I am Tahasi Massk

Taking a long view of things is sometimes essential to a lasting, loving relationship. I have loved her for more than half my time on earth. There has been so much joy. Keeping the joy of the past ever present can float us through hard times. It is also helpful to keep the hard times. To remember that we have felt sadness, frustration, grief, anger, and pain, but that those feelings went away, and joy returned. The negative feeling of the moment is temporary, even though it is real. It’s so easy to think that the negative will last forever. That is not Truth. Truth is that the future will be filled with even more joy than the past. And Truth is that it is only our love that will last forever. Provided we keep the long view.

September 11th

September 11th

I am Tahasi Massk

Keeping in sync sometimes make everything a little bit harder. Conflicts will arise. Arguments will happen. Being open enough to be hurt is part of the gamble that love is. But, conflicts can be resolved. Arguments can be used to create future harmony, and love heals the very hurts it opens us to, paving the way for our future felicity.

September 10th

September 10th

I am Tahasi Massk

I keep being struck by the magic of repetition. Every thing has a natural way of receding, declining. So that only those things that we actively keep vibrant through repetition of thought or action remain as acutely alive as they begin. Love is no different. Without active attention, it too will fade. Part of the joy of this project is the chance to renew, to enliven, to recreate love every day.